When I look around it’s utterly amazing to me that I have organized my quitting. I’ve actually financed it, dressed it, and created space for it. Folders with bright feminine designs and sturdy three ring binders – all stuffed full of my quitting.

I guess I had never really had this perspective before today. The collection of devotional outlines from miscellaneous group meetings, prayer guides, Bible studies, etc.

It was like visiting a writing graveyard. A wasteland of my quitting.

What if instead of all of these papers scattered here and there, gently tucked away, I would have kept to it.

Would I have a book by now?

Instead I have a glorious collection of false starts and a lack of perseverance.

Today I stumbled along a blog post in which the writer shared that after 12.5 years they were “pressing pause” on their blog. My knee jerk reaction, “I’ve spent just over 12.5 weeks blogging, 12.5 years, NO WAY!”

BUT.

What if on the other side of my weekly blogging commitment (to you lovely people) I have indeed written, published, and have a book to regard, not another frilly folder stuffed with outlines, story maps, and edits.

What if this time I don’t quit.

What if this time I make it across to the other side. I traverse the expansive evolution from writer to author. What if.

It’s hard to persevere when things get tough. It takes courage to envision your breakthrough.


I call this blog “Moments with Melissa” firstly, the practical, my name as a url was already in use, and secondly, I thought it would be easy to remember.

It ends up however, the blog knew what it would become, a passport to travel with me. We’re learning companions.

When I pause long enough to reflect on the moments of my everyday life, the moments that have created a ripple in the puddle of my emotions, I can learn something.

Where did I squirm? Where were the moments that with wet wings I found myself slowly emerging with the grace of a Monarch? Where did I find myself learning to roar?

Where was I cultivating courage?

Yes friend this is a learning. It’s an everyday, moment by moment journey to somewhere we are all destined to arrive. The commitment to cultivate the little bit of courage that each of one of us has received as a gift, is a daily journey to somewhere.

“No one’s ever seen or heard anything like this,
Never so much as imagined anything quite like it—
What God has arranged for those who love him.” 1 Corinthians 2 : The Message

Something has been arranged for us. Do we have the courage to find it?

Our courage needs to be opened, enjoyed, and put to good use. Courage is a virtue that makes each human full of potential. We shouldn’t leave it on a shelf collecting dust. We should employ it.

I know the working is hard.

We’re not quitters, anymore (if that’s been an issue for you), we’re finishers.

What is begging you to finish?

Household project? Legacy gift for your children/grandchildren? College Degree? Unfulfilling commitment/obligation? Personal Health/Fitness Goal? Paying off old debt?

Believe friends, believe in your breakthrough.

I come to you in honest companionship. With a deep sigh and faint heart, the quitting has kept me from everything I’ve always desired for myself and my life. But with great resolve and a smidge of courage, today I decided not to quit, I just showed up again.

Thank you for doing this with me 💛.

Look at your moments this week and share with us how you lived out the “finish what you start” mantra?

Until next week friends, be strong and courageous,

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8 thoughts on “What if this time I don’t quit.

  1. I love your content always, but this post hits a raw spot. Ah, quitting, how well I know it. Quitting and I are familiar companions.

    However, these days, God’s got me on a journey (I believe it is divine intervention that I ended up as one of your traveling companions.) He’s helping me muster up the courage to walk through all my many insecurities and busting down the many lies I’ve bought into from the enemy throughout the years. One of which is that I’m a quitter. Thankfully God never leaves us where we’re at. He’s always there nudging, encouraging, cheering us on and bringing fellow sojourners around us to do the same.

    I’m so grateful for your honesty about these things and for persevering, even when there is silence. 🙂 Can’t wait to meet you in person!

    1. Janine-

      Me too on the in person💛

      I’m sharing the same thought will all of you who commented on this week’s post. This comes from pg. 53 of Andy Andrew’s book The Little Things, this chapter is about not quitting.

      “Fortunately, as it turned out, number seven of those seven principles I had incorporated in the book was haunting me. Every now and then I’d sit in my room alone, turn to that page in the manuscript, and just stare at it. I WILL PERSIST WITHOUT EXCEPTION, it read.”

      Actions step for all of us… pull whatever the thing is that we want to QUIT out into the open and just start persisting. One “no quit” action. Then again, and again, and again. We are building core strength within our courage center.

      We can do this friends. Please share any successes you have – we can all breakthrough our current tolerance of resistance. Love you all.

  2. Melissa,
    Thanks again for your honesty. Quitting is so much easier most of the time than staying the course to the finish line. This is especially the case for me when the going gets tough or way out of my comfort zone. I have proven to myself that when I put my mind to something, even if it’s difficult, I can do it–PT and exercises for back issues a while back really paid off in the end. Last summer when I had partial knee surgery, the PT and exercises were excruciating at times, but I knew I needed to push through if I wanted a complete recovery! But, that is not to say I haven’t quit in the middle of many projects, removed myself from many organizations/ministries throughout the years, etc.

    I have many items on my “to-do” list this year that I am determined to finish. God is good, and I just need to remember that He will give me the strength and courage to finish strong EVERY time.

    1. Karen-

      I can relate to the PT – I experienced this when I shattered my wrist – just think if I didn’t persevere then the likely hood of writing to you today would be slim. It was my typing hand 😭.

      I’m sharing the same thought will all of you who commented on this week’s post. This comes from pg. 53 of Andy Andrew’s book The Little Things, this chapter is about not quitting.

      “Fortunately, as it turned out, number seven of those seven principles I had incorporated in the book was haunting me. Every now and then I’d sit in my room alone, turn to that page in the manuscript, and just stare at it. I WILL PERSIST WITHOUT EXCEPTION, it read.”

      Actions step for all of us… pull whatever the thing is that we want to QUIT out into the open and just start persisting. One “no quit” action. Then again, and again, and again. We are building core strength within our courage center.

      We can do this friends. Please share any successes you have – we can all breakthrough our current tolerance of resistance. Love you all.

  3. Not quitting this time would look like one continual step after another to complete my first book.
    It would look like showing up daily.
    Choosing not to get distracted by going at it “yet again.”
    It would look like being brave. Sticking to it. It would look like overcoming the lies that I will never reach the end of it.
    It wold look like me believing God that what He says is true.
    He is faithful to complete what He has started.
    Endurance and perseverance. Even writing this out feels big.

    1. Betsy-

      HAPPY BIRTHDAY WEEK! And me too on the book.

      I’m sharing the same thought will all of you who commented on this week’s post. This comes from pg. 53 of Andy Andrew’s book The Little Things, this chapter is about not quitting.

      “Fortunately, as it turned out, number seven of those seven principles I had incorporated in the book was haunting me. Every now and then I’d sit in my room alone, turn to that page in the manuscript, and just stare at it. I WILL PERSIST WITHOUT EXCEPTION, it read.”

      Actions step for all of us… pull whatever the thing is that we want to QUIT out into the open and just start persisting. One “no quit” action. Then again, and again, and again. We are building core strength within our courage center.

      We can do this friends. Please share any successes you have – we can all breakthrough our current tolerance of resistance. Love you all.

    1. Allison –
      ❤️ you too.

      I’m sharing the same thought will all of you who commented on this week’s post. This comes from pg. 53 of Andy Andrew’s book The Little Things, this chapter is about not quitting.

      “Fortunately, as it turned out, number seven of those seven principles I had incorporated in the book was haunting me. Every now and then I’d sit in my room alone, turn to that page in the manuscript, and just stare at it. I WILL PERSIST WITHOUT EXCEPTION, it read.”

      Actions step for all of us… pull whatever the thing is that we want to QUIT out into the open and just start persisting. One “no quit” action. Then again, and again, and again. We are building core strength within our courage center.

      We can do this friends. Please share any successes you have – we can all breakthrough our current tolerance of resistance. Love you all.

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