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What if our realities collide?

You would think since we now live in the same neighborhood that we would be spending more time together, sadly it hasn’t turned out that way. Last week there were close encounters as we played tag via text, and another day as I was rounding the street to return home from my walk I caught a glimpse of her jogging the other way. Friend-ships in the night I guess. We finally accepted our lot and settled for a phone call while we tried to multitask some of our routine responsibilities.

We never quite get through our list of “life stuff to discuss with _______” I think we both keep a running mental account with one another’s names included.

We were gracious and allowed each other a fair share of the talk time to catch up and cover most of our agendas before she interjected “new business” to our meeting.

Question, have you ever felt like you had investigated something thoroughly and are ready to pull the trigger on the decision, only to discover, just after you were certain, “Houston, we have a problem?”

Well, that’s exactly where she found herself. This can be unnerving. How can we be so certain we are moving forward in the right direction only to realize that we’ve hit a headwind straight into a danger.

After she neatly unpacked all the details of her quandary, we began to analyze.

Of course we were both able to take our seats up in the clouds, as we pulled apart the situation attempting to see it all from God’s point of view, no judgement of course. I can honestly say that we were fair and kind, even though we did not agree with the actions that had transpired. However, there would still be danger ahead for my friend so I advised she launch some preemptive counter measures.

“Call her back” I said.

She had just given a verbal “yes” to a year long commitment. However, with this new information now in play she was dismayed. “It took courage for me to go in and tell her I would commit in the first place” she said, “now I have to call her and bring up these issues.” She knew she had to do it.

It takes courage to seek the truth.

Whether we like it or not, all of our perspectives are building toward a future reality. What if our realities collide? Some of us will like the new reality and some of us won’t. Seeking the truth of someone else’s perspective can help us know which battles are worth fighting.

I’m betting that if someone else’s perspective is going to impact my future reality, that I better fight for my perspective to be considered.

Isn’t that how most conflict occurs anyway – opposing perspectives?

She’s one of us. She’s full of courage. I have no doubt that the next pocket of time we have to debrief on life, I’ll get the rest of the story.

Maybe so will you.

Until then, be strong and courageous friends,

2 thoughts on “What if our realities collide?”

  1. I have been working on my “worrying” and “over- analyzing” for a bit now. Last Friday I quickly decided to visit my friend in the hospital which meant a long drive south in an unfamiliar area, at night time. I was of course worried that I made the wrong decision especially when I got into my car and I had 5% battery not knowing my exact location.
    Fortunately, I did not change my mind. I made it happen and got there safe ( with a few detours, since I could not keep Google Map on for more than 2 minutes at a time.) The moral of the story is that my friend was so happy that I visited and it was a rewarding time for both of us (all things considered). The next morning I thought to myself I would not have done that a year ago.
    And if I had not told my husband with such authority that I was going he would have questioned me ” Are you sure you want to go there?”
    I still find it hard to make decisions and know which way God is pulling me, but it is getting easier. It is a hard lesson, learning that I can not let fear prevent me from doing things that will be awesome and provide people with hope. It is a constant battle: Can I do this? Should I do this? Am I overcommitting myself?

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