I was proud of her, my friend that is. She’s not shrinking back from the discomfort. Instead, she’s systematically put one foot in front of the other to get to this place, a place she had no idea would be laid before her. I can relate to this kind of uncomfortable. It’s been a decade since I laid my career aside to be more available to my family. I’ll admit, for me, this has been the most painful sacrifice I’ve ever made.
When we start a new season of life, or embark on a journey, or respond to the unexpected, we often begin with one hard choice. Once that choice is made, there will be a succession of choices behind it, that for the most part reinforce that first choice. It’s more like tipping the first domino in a sequence than facing a series of crossroads. Once you make that first choice of right or left, most of the choices behind it are almost already made, that’s what makes her so courageous, she’s allowing herself to be led down the path of her own choices.
We don’t just get where we want to be by making one huge choice, we get there by making one small first choice to get outside our comfort zone, then we keep heading down that path. Choosing our own path takes courage.
You could say that what is unknown awaits us outside of our comfort zones, it’s our choice to discover it, or leave it unknown. It’s not easy to transition back into the workforce when you’ve laid that down for a long season, it’s even more difficult when you’re 40+. I admire her, she is courageous.
Having made both the transition out of and transition back into the workforce, on multiple occasions, I can speak from some experience to the exhaustion she will face, the insecurity that’s heading her way, and the emotionally fragile state she will find herself moodily swinging in and out of, because I’ve been there myself. But even still, with all this she is still courageous, not shrinking back, but making the choice on the path she’s created for herself. She’s heading into her great unknown, and for that I applaud her.
If you’re in a season of role transition, I applaud you too. Taking the risk to leave the comforts of your known to explore what’s out there for you is courageous.