▪️WAITING

Time’s up.

Silence is the sound that floods a space when time is up. Nothing more to do, nothing more to say, nothing more than discovering what’s on the other side of waiting. Many weeks have passed since those doves were nestled in their little mess above my garage. (see last week’s POST to fill you in) Yet, I haven’t brought myself to remove that mess. I’m still waiting. I’ve yet to discover what’s on the other side of my waiting.

In late October of last year, hubby and I bought our 6th house, technically we’ve had 8 houses to call home these last 2 decades, but 6 of them we’ve owned (or at least the banks did.) You can do the math, we don’t stay long in one place. The most recent purchase we’ve loving dubbed as a “fixer upper.” I suppose that means we might actually have to do some reno at some point. However, when to the eye everything needs an overhaul, you do what you can, which in my case was hit it with some lipstick and dry shampoo (aka…new fixtures and paint.)

There is one old fixture, that was kept, which I’ve come to appreciate. An old ceiling fan that moves the air near my writing desk in our kitchen. The ceiling fan has its own heartbeat, a constant ticking similar to the hands slowly inching their way over the face of a clock. It’s calm consistency gives the surrounding atmosphere a pulse. But more importantly, it keeps time with me. The end of waiting can only be signaled by one thing – knowing. Knowing the answers to your questions. Asking the hard questions takes courage.

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Why? Because we won’t always like the answers. But having the courage to pursue the questions we won’t always like the answers to is courageous. Avoiding asking the hard questions of life, might help you make your little mess more comfortable, but it will never let you leave.

You have the power to release the outcomes in your life before times up, and you know what the outcome will be – this is strength we gain in the waiting. Our waiting doesn’t always lead to rainbows – but I sure hope yours does.

*The original post included a FREE resource. I will repost this in another offering early fall.

Next week I’ll be done WAITING, and will be moving onto the other Attributes of Courage. Thanks for hanging with me friend.

 

 

▪️PICK YOUR BATTLES

What if our realities collide?

You would think since we now live in the same neighborhood that we would be spending more time together, sadly it hasn’t turned out that way. Last week there were close encounters as we played tag via text, and another day as I was rounding the street to return home from my walk I caught a glimpse of her jogging the other way. Friend-ships in the night I guess. We finally accepted our lot and settled for a phone call while we tried to multitask some of our routine responsibilities.

We never quite get through our list of “life stuff to discuss with _______” I think we both keep a running mental account with one another’s names included.

We were gracious and allowed each other a fair share of the talk time to catch up and cover most of our agendas before she interjected “new business” to our meeting.

Question, have you ever felt like you had investigated something thoroughly and are ready to pull the trigger on the decision, only to discover, just after you were certain, “Houston, we have a problem?”

Well, that’s exactly where she found herself. This can be unnerving. How can we be so certain we are moving forward in the right direction only to realize that we’ve hit a headwind straight into a danger.

After she neatly unpacked all the details of her quandary, we began to analyze.

Of course we were both able to take our seats up in the clouds, as we pulled apart the situation attempting to see it all from God’s point of view, no judgement of course. I can honestly say that we were fair and kind, even though we did not agree with the actions that had transpired. However, there would still be danger ahead for my friend so I advised she launch some preemptive counter measures.

“Call her back” I said.

She had just given a verbal “yes” to a year long commitment. However, with this new information now in play she was dismayed. “It took courage for me to go in and tell her I would commit in the first place” she said, “now I have to call her and bring up these issues.” She knew she had to do it.

It takes courage to seek the truth.

Whether we like it or not, all of our perspectives are building toward a future reality. What if our realities collide? Some of us will like the new reality and some of us won’t. Seeking the truth of someone else’s perspective can help us know which battles are worth fighting.

I’m betting that if someone else’s perspective is going to impact my future reality, that I better fight for my perspective to be considered.

Isn’t that how most conflict occurs anyway – opposing perspectives?

She’s one of us. She’s full of courage. I have no doubt that the next pocket of time we have to debrief on life, I’ll get the rest of the story.

Maybe so will you.

Until then, be strong and courageous friends,